Keep your child, or keep your husband? A fortunate decision was made that allowed me to be here and paint this one. Being a divorcee in the late 1960s was not ideal. However, my mother was fortunate to have money, and could make an independent decision that many women did not have the luxury of making. She could live without the man that was not ready for being a parent. Do downside is the lifetime of focus and dependency on one’s children, and alienating oneself from real relationships. A hard heart make for a sterile existence. I’ll take the messy and unpolished any day, but it is easier said than done for some more than others.